It is a very sad story. I covered it extensively as it unfolded last year. Trevor Varinecz went to school. Said goodbye to his mom. A regular school day for this 16 year old high school student.
Little did his mom know that was the last time she would see her son alive. Or that he would be shot to death by school officials in his high school.
Trevor's mom contacted me. You see she was a longtime reader of my newsletters. And she did not want another mom's child to die in school.
We hear about street violence, muggings, robbers…all kinds of things that might get our teenage child killed. But we don't expect him to be shot dead in the school in the office where teens turn for help. But that is what happened.
Apparently Trevor had been a long time victim of bullying. Maybe he was at his wits end. Maybe he was calling out for help. We will never know. But on one fateful day, Trevor decided to bring a knife to school. What happened next no one will ever know for sure, but at the end of the day Trevor was dead…shot five times.
Now his parents are suing the school, trying to make something good come of this tragic event. They do not believe that the school's resource officer (who carried a loaded gun) was trained to understand their son with autism.
It was well known that Trevor had autism, since he was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome and got special accommodations in the school. Trevor had spoken with Marcus Rhodes, the school police officer at his Myrtle Beach high school many times. But Rhodes did not understand how those with autism think or act. He was never trained according to Trevor's parents.
And the school had severely cut back on supervision of their son without telling the parents. So when Trevor brought a bayonet into his office he shot Trevor five times at close range.
Do you want police stationed in your child's high school without proper training interacting with your autistic children?
Does it make sense for a police officer to be stationed in a high school with a loaded gun and have to deal with special needs kids without a full understanding of how they act? Should police officers who are stationed in a high school shoot five times at close range to stop a 16 year old with a knife? A student who does not communicate well and has communication issues?
Trevor's parents did not know their son was being bullied. But at his funeral, many students told Karen, Trevor's mom that Trevor has been constantly bullied. But the school apparently did nothing about it. And never informed Karen or Tom Varinecz.
Many children with autism will not turn to their parents or anyone else for help if they are bullied. This is, unfortunately a common pattern. I have advised parents repeatedly to ask their children to tell them if they are being taunted, hit or called names at school. Most kids will not tell their parents or ask for help because they do not believe it will help…or they fear it may make things worse.
If you have a school age child with autism, ASK them if they are being picked on or bullied. And follow up with the school to make sure the school is aware of it and that it stops. Prevent tragedy before it occurs.
For extensive reporting of this event and videos from local TV stations as well as my personal interview with Trevor's mom, Karen Varinecz, see my newsletter, Autistic Teen Shot to Death in School.
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